Brother Louie

I was sitting down watching tonight's season finale of Louie, and I couldn't help but relate to both segments of the episode.

What am I really doing with my life? I'm going to school, and yeah I have one (possibly two) job(s) and I maintain a, somewhat, active social life. But where am I going? Recently I've been made to feel (from outside sources) bad about living here, specifically SoCal. I understand that it's not a "real" place to live. There isn't much culture, or diversity. It is a rather Right leaning area, something that I come into contact with far more than I would like. I want to get out, I want to experience life on my own, I want to get out of this sterile bubble that I've been brought up in. But can I? I'm almost 25 years old and just finishing Community College. Some would say that this is the perfect time for me to get going and leave, but I really don't know if it's in the cards. Perhaps I'm making excuses and I should just GO. I just take umbrage with being looked down upon for not being able to leave sooner, or at all. Give me more credit than that.

I guess what I'm getting at is that my wheels are spinning. I can't get traction, and I can feel myself sink farther into the quagmire that is my life. I'm starting to see a therapist, and hopefully that will provide me with some support to get out and DO and GO and be GONE from here for a while. Strangely, the decision to leave isn't made hard by some of the traditional things that usually hold people back. Friends? I have but a few here that would ACTUALLY miss me or protest my leaving. Job? I've all but quit the city, and my time at Marina is coming to an end, possibly as soon as this season is over. Romantic obligations? Let's save that until later in the entry. I guess what's mainly holding me back is the means by which I have to move. In a perfect world I would get into SFSU or SSU or SOMEWHERE up north and experience life on my own, away from it all, start anew. But that costs money, and I don't know if my parents would be able to help me much. Is going into a huge amount of debt worth my well being? I think so, but some would probably argue with the sentiment.

I'm rambling, and not being as concise as I'd like to be, maybe because I'm getting a little tired, it's late. What it comes down to, is that I have a lot of soul searching to do. Hopefully I'll be updating more. I'm buying my first chef's knife tomorrow, going with a Global Japanese Steel knife, I'm way more excited about it than I have any right to be.

~Jared

Cooking

Cooking makes me feel a lot better. I also love feeding people. I guess I get  that mostly from my mom. During Christmas or Thanksgiving she would have literally 12 dishes cooking all at once and would still manage to have everything out on time and it would be delicious. I cook for my friends during the holiday times and I love it. I want to start doing it more and more throughout the year, making people happy through food.

I guess what I'm getting at is I want to start using this blog, not only for my dumb bullshit, but for my recipies and stuff that I pick up along the way. Pictures, recipies everything food related or what I cook. So what would you like to see me make? I want to work my way through both my Grandma's (Jewish and Japanese) cookbooks, but that's a lot to tackle.

I think this weekend I'm going to make something simple to try out the format. Maybe some Jambalaya with Sausage or something.

~Jared

When it rains it pours/misery loves company/it gets worse before it gets better et al.

April 30th was the last post that I made in this thing. So much for keeping it updated eh?  Frankly, I just haven't had the mojo to write. It comes and goes and I always think about things to write about but when I try and sit down to put thoughts to screen...it just never comes.

I'm currently at work on lunch break, yes I have a computer now in my derelict office, one of many new changes that have happened this year. Another change is my attitude towards this job.  I can't ever remember not wanting to come to work as badly as I do now. Granted, there is a lot going on at home, with the moving and the resentment and the general air of tension that seems ever present now adays, but I loathe coming here now.  I almost feel worse about myself for being here. It has come to symobolize a sense of stagnation in my life that I find disgusting.  I need to move on, I need to experience something new. I've run my course here, but I still have 4 weeks to go this Summer, and I honestly don't know whether I can manage(ha) it or not.

I mentioned previously that things at home have been rather tumultuous. That, dear readers, is the understatement of the year. I feel a mix of sadness, anger, apathy and just plain sadness over everything. It makes me question people and relationships even more now. I realize that this is a horribly unhealthy way to think, but can you blame me? I know, I'm being rather negative, but it's hard not to be feeling so these days.

I can't wait until August. If I can make it to August, I think everything is going to be good. Steve comes for his honeymoon, I'm going to Seattle to visit the cousins and family, and Cassie comes to visit. Things that will take my mind off the hard times as of late, everyone needs a break from time to time.

Well, hopefully I'll be writing in here more. It's cathartic to put words out there again.

Thank you
~Jared

When I write, I feel like an armless, legless man with a crayon in his mouth.

There's been a lot of family drama going on in the past week. A lot of uncertainty. I think that's the worst part, the not knowing what's going to happen. No, actually the worst part is the feeling that I can't do anything except be there.  I guess I'm the "glue" of my family.  I try to mend things and hold my family together, because really, I don't have a big family. I remember the way it felt when I was younger, wondering why my family was being torn apart at the seams. My parents underestimated my understanding of the situation at hand. They thought they could placate me with rationalizations, and faux acts of kindness towards one another. Which makes me worry that the kid knows what's going on. Sure, he's only 5, but I think he can see what's going on in front of hm, and that kills me.

In other, less depressing news, Summer is fast approaching and with it brings the busiest time of year for me. It's strange to think that the time when I should be taking a "break" I'm at my most hectic. I've been conducting interviews and reviewing job applications for Summer swim lessons, and I'm really nervous about this group, they are all really young. 

As much shit as I talk about the City job, I really like it when I manage. I usually have really good workers and we all get along. I bring my ipod dock to the pool and we have lunch together and have dance parties in the office. It helps SO much that Erin is working at the other pool. We keep each other sane, which is always nice. This will most likely be my last Summer working there, so I intend to make it the best it can be.

I also just found out recently that I'm the ONLY returning aquatics coach. Which means, as of right now, I'm running the Boys and Girls Water Polo Camps as well as the Boys and Girls Swimming Camp.  I will be making great money, but at this point I'm seriously wondering if I've spread myself too thin. Seriously, I have so much shit going on it's kind of ridiculous.

I'm slowly planning a trip somewhere, I really want to go to NYC, as I've never been and I hear it's wonderful. There are other places I want to visit, but as always, I don't know if I will have enough time. But C'est La Vie right?

Hopefully my next post will be cooking related with pictures and everything.

~Jared

Parle romancing into the financing

My Mother, in all her well meanings, described me as "eccentric" the other day.  I don't really know whether that is a good or bad thing, but I didn't give it much thought until recently.  I very well could just be thinking too much about it, as I am inclined to do from time to time, but for some reason it has stuck in my figurative craw since she said it.

I know she means well. But the specificity of the word is what got to me, I guess.  I then start to think whether this is the reason why people, specifically the opposite gender, aren't attracted to me.  Is that why I've had trouble finding a lady-friend in the past however many years its been?  Does my "eccentricity" ward them off? Frankly, if it does, I don't really care. I'm not in the business of changing myself to make other people like me, that's just not something I do. But it's hard not to think that I'm doing something wrong. After all is said and done, I'm the most common denominator in these situations right? Whatever though, I'm not actively looking for someone right now.

These are just random musings that I sometimes let trouble me. If someone comes along though, someone that has the same love of music, appreciation for the comedy of Seinfeld/Curb, loving movies and tolerating me rambling on about Coen Brother's movies, wouldn't mind me cooking for them, and can tolerate me being a bit nerdy, I'm more than willing to give it a shot =)

~Jared

So

I have a date on Saturday night. A blind one at that.

I already know where I'm taking her for dinner and what the post-meal plans are, so I'm not exactly fretting over that. But I am effing nervous.  I guess it's because the prospect of meeting someone face to face for the first time is always a rather unique situation for someone to be put in.

In High School and College we always usually knew/have seen the person that we were twitterpated with. They would catch our eye from the way they looked, talked, or their general presence. When you agree to go out with someone that you haven't interacted with on a face to face basis, it can be a little scary.

I've been talking to her via txt for the past week or so, she seems rather nice. I'm trying not to sabotage myself, as I've been known to do in the past with other ladies.  I think it deals with my own insecurities and other crap, but I'm genuinely trying to keep an open mind with her...even though she uses no punctuation in her texts...and she uses a lot of "!"s in her sentences...

stop. just stop.

See? That's the kind of weird shit that I seek out and notice in other people. And it drives me insane.  Would I base my whole opinion of a girl on how she texts? No, that's completely insane. But what it does do, is give me a weird preconception of her that I think is unfair. I'm rambling, and probably sounding a little weird right now, so I'll end it before I delve into other matters.

I shall give a full account on the blind date after it happens.

Wish me luck!

~Jared

Stood Up

Lately there has been a lot of focus on me dating, or my lack there of.  Mostly it's been coming from external sources, be it friends or family.  My mom tried to set me up on a blind date with  her co-worker's niece. I was open for it because, at worst, it was a story that I could tell.  So the girl gives the information to her Aunt, her Aunt to my Mother, and my Mother to me.  Now, I've never been on a blind date so this idea was a little...odd?  So I choose to e-mail her and start the ball rolling in the most non-threatening way possible.  She e-mails back and we start a little dialogue.  Our rapport was nice and I felt that there was some chemistry, albeit a digital one.  The last e-mail I got from her was about a week and a half ago.  Communications just stopped and I am left wondering why that might be.  I'm not really losing any sleep over it because, let's face it, I didn't really even know this girl.  But it has still left me wondering, but I guess I should be thankful that it didn't end up getting to the point where some of my recent...endeavors in the world of dating have ended up.

About a month ago I had a date with a girl.  I haven't really told any of my friends because, well they don't really need to know everything about me, do they? I digress. This lady-friend and I had once gone out previously, and agreed to do so again.  She says that she'll meet me at the restaurant and we will go from there. I, being a neurotically early person, show up a little early in order to get a seat. Ten minutes past 8pm and I figure she's running late, 15 minutes and I'm starting to worry a little. At this point I'm sitting down inside and I can feel the eyes burning into me and I can only imagine the murmuring going on about me. 20 Minutes late and I now something is up, so I text her. I receive the following text 5 minutes later:

"hey i dont think we should see eachother anymore i think were just different and dont see this going any further sorry."

The lack of punctuation aside, this was an infuriating and embarrassing thing to have sent to me. Couldn't she have told me before that day? Fuck, before that HOUR? Sometimes I just don't get people. Maybe I'm overly polite but I wouldn't ever do something that shitty to someone else.  This isn't the first time I've been stood up, and I'm sure it won't be the last, but damn if it doesn't suck.

This all comes around to my dating again. I don't care that It's been a while since I've had a...significant other (barf).  I'm fine hanging out on my own or with friends.  Yes, there are great things about sharing your time with someone you care about, but there is a lot of shit that goes along with getting to the point where you're happy, and I'm fine with staving off those shitty things a little longer before attempting to jump into another adventure in dating. But that's not to say I'm completely closed to the idea of being with anyone, just that I'm not actively looking. And I don't think that's a bad place to be in.

~Jared

This was rather long winded, and I hope to not make all these like this, but It felt nice to write again! I hope there is more in the immediate future =)

BLOGGER, I AM INSIDE OF YOU!

I decided to leave my LiveJournal behind for the time being.  She's been good to me over the years, but I feel it's time for a fresh start.  At the behest of a cohort I decided to start one of these.

What will I write in here? Not sure if I should have a theme yet. But I think it's going to be a hodgepodge...yes hodgepodge, of random musings and stuff. I want to start putting pictures of what I cook and the recipes I use.  I think it will help me keep my cooking skills up to snuff.

A more concise update to follow later.

~Jared